Steps to Become a 'Love Magnet'
Do you want to
attract true love or improve your relationship so that it turns into true
love? Then you may want to become a love magnet.
You deserve to be loved! I will show you how to attract true love by looking
and growing within yourself.
Although you're seeking love from another person, you will be more likely
to get the love and attention you deserve by first growing within.
Here are the six steps you need to take to help you grow in just the right
way. The steps will groom you to attract and engender love.
Figure out your relationship patterns.
If you are not attracting the right partners or not getting
enough love in your relationship, it's probably not the first time in
your life. If that's the case, then it's likely you have relationship
patterns that are preventing you from attracting the right partner or
preventing you from behaving in a way that causes love. Get to know your
relationship pattern and your love life will improve.
Let go of your past.
Most people collect unpleasantness without realizing it. Every
time something unpleasant happens to you, it goes into a huge sack of
other unpleasantness weighing heavily on your back. You can't move forward
in life - and especially in relationships - with this baggage. You can't
move forward emotionally any better than if you had a real sack weighing
100 pounds on your back. Even if you don't feel the weight most of the
time, you will feel it in relationships. It feels like excessive anger,
excessive need to control others, fear, and anxiety. Want to drop this
weight? Learn to let go of the unpleasantness in your life and in your
Delve into your needs.
Everyone has needs -- that's a part of human nature. In fact,
our needs create relationships. The giver and the receiver both feel better
and more connected when each other's needs are voiced and met. Yet most
of us are uncomfortable asking others to meet our needs. At the same time,
we enter relationships to get our needs met. See the paradox? Figure out
your needs, and then figure out which ones need to be met by your partner
and which ones need to be met by other people. Get them met!
Draw your boundaries.
Boundaries are there to protect you and to help you honor your
needs and wants. You know you have boundaries when you can choose to say
yes or no to something, someone, or a situation. You know you have boundaries
when you can stop a situation that is hurting you. You know you have boundaries
when you know your needs and ask others to respect them. Having boundaries
makes you discerning, gives you self-respect, and inspires others to both
respect you and treat you well. This is valuable skill to learn.
Know what you want.
Know what you want in a partner and in a relationship. Be careful
that what you want is not a fantasy, unrealistic standards of perfection,
or a set of low expectations. Look at the relationships you value most
and model your love relationship after those. Keep out people who are
not a match, invite in those who are. Stop doing behaviors that sabotage
what you want in your relationship and instead take action to create what
Build a community. Get people into your life to meet your needs,
to support you, to nourish you. Many people want to simply find "the one"
or hope they have found "the one," and then proceed to isolate themselves.
What a stress on a relationship! Can you put all of your needs, wants,
desires, and interests on one person? Do you think all of your needs will
somehow be met by your Prince or Princess Charming? We all need community.
We have too many needs for one person to meet them all. Get connected,
and stay connected.
Your Relationship Coach, Rinatta Paries
Rinatta Paries. Do you know how to attract your ideal mate? Do you know
how to build a fulfilling relationship, or how to reinvent yours to meet
your needs? Relationship Coach Rinatta Paries can teach you the skills
and techniques to attract and sustain long-term, healthy partnerships.
Visit www.WhatItTakes.com where you'll find quizzes, classes, advice and
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